Can’t Hurry, Love

By Kay Gardiner
October 25, 2018

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  • I am so sorry to hear about Gerry. I joined the bone marrow donor registry years ago in his honor as a show of moral support to Annie and her family. Thank you for sharing Annie’s donation site. It’s the least I can do for this wonderful big-hearted woman. My heart aches for her.

  • Hi Kay,
    I made that sweater…I have that sweater in my cedar chest! If I get to VKL, I will wear it and look for you. Mine is the non modified, original version that I made back in the 80’s from the pattern in his book. Don’t think I used a kit, just lots of KF yarn. Remember I kept it in a laundry basket while I was working on it.
    Thanks for the info on Annie and her husband….this post made me smile with memory of my sweater and sad with memory of things learned from Annie.

  • I made that sweater too! During July and August, ages ago. NOT summer knitt8ng…. but I loved it so much, I Could.Not.Stop! Kaffe Love!

  • For as long as I’ve been reading the MDK blog I have been hoping that you guys would meet the Kaffe. I was so happy and excited for you when I read about it on IG last week and those feelings still remain.

    I was so sorry to hear about the passing of your friend’s husband. I understand what it is to have a loved one who has passed, especially after a long illness.

    Yes, you can’t hurry love; and, true love will last a lifetime and beyond.

  • Yep, the people who can show up and just sit with you are very special and should be cherished. And by the way, I’ve been wondering about this sweater ever since I thought I saw a glimpse of it in the Rhinebeck photos. Glad to see it is near the top of the WIP pile.

  • I’m so sorry to read about Annie’s illness & her husband’s death. I took a class with her at my LYS quite a few years ago & learned a lot from her. I wish her well as she fights on.

  • Kay, I’m delighted to hear about your dinner with Kaffe. So HAPPY for you! My dream would be to replicate this by having dinner with you and Ann!!!

  • Giving Annie lots of positive health vibes and wishing her much strength at this time.

  • Thank you for posting the sad news about Annie’s husband Gerry. I worked on some blanket squares in her honor and have been following her journey online. Such a hard burden to bear.

  • I thank you for your “ramblings” –like a good longtime friend.

  • Oh, mercy, so sorry for the passing and diagnosis. There but for the grace of God go I.

    I would love to make just the front design of your sweater. I’d pop it onto the front of any of our antique console tube radios as a grill cloth……but, hubby wouldn’t let me!!

    Oh, that barf bag…..have used one…..can’t remember being as sick before or after. ((;

  • I am not the most experienced knitter but I may have a tip for you…I tie half a knot with two yarn ends that are close together, weave both ends in and cut ends. I then put a dot of Alene’s OK To Was It under each end…not too much! Let dry and so far I have had succcess. Of course I hand wash these items and dry flat. I hope you see this and try this in the future.

  • Lucky you for meeting Kaffe! and the jacket is beautiful. Thanks for sharing about Gerry. I had read that on her blog. Gerry’s SSDI was their sole source of income so that donation link means the world. thank you, thank you.

  • oh gosh. So much good and also sad news here. Meeting Kaffe! Almost completing a big Kaffe project! Such amazing good stuff.
    I am sorry about Annie’s husband – I don’t know them personally, but I love her work. Thank you for including the donation button. I remain in the donor registry for stem cells since I got myself tested due to my brother’s diagnosis of leukemia last year. I was 100% match for him (even for full siblings, this only happens 25% of the time), so we were thrilled. He passed away suddenly (chemo complications), just before we got the chance to attempt a transplant from me, which made accepting his death even more difficult. We felt so close to possibly changing his outcome…
    I am glad to be in the registry though, so that if any relative or stranger in need finds me to be a match for them, I will happily donate in my brother’s memory. He’d be glad.
    [A twist in my story of my brother: we only met last year (he was 55 and I was 50) as he was the oldest sibling in my family and adopted out (my parents were young, unmarried and poor at the time – no option but adoption). My brothers with whom I grew up and I knew about an older brother adopted out. He was raised by loving parents; he knew he was adopted but never felt a pull to seek biological family until his medical team encouraged him to do so after the leukemia diagnosis. Imagine his surprise when he finally searched last year (through submission of DNA sample on, where he matched a cousin of ours) and found a passel of several siblings!! He and his wife lived 40 min from me, and we had worked at offices less than a mile from each other for a few years. Those thoughts still give me chills. We all had an absolutely wonderful time meeting last year, and I had several incredible talks and visits with him before his passing. Our mother, also ill, finally had the chance to also meet him 9 days before he passed.]
    Sorry – a long post – but seemed apropos about how life’s joys and sorrows are so often entwined.

    • What a story, Wanda. So bittersweet. So glad you got to meet your brother, and he you. xo

  • May Gerry (And Peter’s) memories be a blessing.

  • So sorry to hear about Annie and Gerry. She was one of the first designers I encountered on my knitting journey and I had heard about her husband’s cancer struggle. There are so many new effective treatments such as immunotherapy. Hope they can help Annie, although apparently were too late for her husband….Took a class with Kaffe decades ago and was struck by his forceful and very focused personality. So different from his dreamy-eyed photos, He was very inspiring.

  • I am so sorry to hear about Annie’s illness and Gerry’s death. I became a widow at age 46, so I know how important the friends who come and sit are. On the Kaffe Fassett side, I can’t wait to see your sweater! I knit a similar Kaffe Fassett jacket back in the 1980s, maybe the Turkish carnation cardigan, which I gave to my artsy mom. She is 89 now and I am pretty sure she still has it.