Dear Kay, dear everyone,
Somebody said recently: “If you’re tired of arguing with strangers on the internet, try talking with one of them in real life.”
Today’s Lazy Sunday is not a British crime drama, nor a documentary about another planet, nor any other of the usual delicious diversions we usually feature.
Today’s viewing is a bit of science, from a website that I love, How Stuff Works.
If you have spent any time this week waxing eloquent on Facebook or Twitter—if you’ve jumped into a comment thread that had a lot of Heartfelt And Freely Shared Opinion Of A Controversial Nature—then I encourage you to watch this 14-minute video, “Why You Can’t Win Arguments Online.”
Our bodies make it really hard for us to communicate well online. This video explains the five things that our body does when we argue online.
The human ability to communicate involves much more than mere words on a screen: tone, physical posture, facial expression, and demeanor all play into how our words are received. When you remove all these visual cues from a conversation, it is virtually impossible to carry on a coherent conversation, where both sides are understanding the nuance, the context, the whole of what the other person is trying to communicate.
Then there’s the whole adrenaline/dopamine thing that kicks in once we hit caps lock.
And the addicting thrill of feeling like we just won a mighty battle.
I don’t typically say this about our own posts, but please: if ever there were a video to share across the internet, this is it.