Self-Care: Winning Custody of our Emotions

March 22, 2017

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  • Would rather not see pics of snakes.

  • Thank you for sharing! It is so easy to give in to putting the responsibility on someone else. They said something we don’t like, they posted something we don’t like, they didn’t do something we would like. We are disappointed because of our expectations of others. I would like to believe that we all do the best we can with what we know. If it makes you uncomfortable, you have to ask yourself why you think everyone else needs to conduct their life for your comfort. Obviously, I’m still a work in progress as I now live alone – comfortably! LOL

  • T – is it true
    H – is it helpful
    I – is it inspirational
    N – is it necessary
    K – is it kind

    I used to think this was how I should treat others but it would also be a good way to look at how I treat myself.

    • Love this! Thank you.

    • ^^^^ Love this! (and this post)

  • Really appreciate this excellent essay on a difficult topic. It’s also a really good short introduction to Byron Katie’s Work. I was listening to a friend this week who is struggling, and I thought, “I wish I had a short, well-written description of The Work.” And poof! Here it is. Filtered through your mind, the concepts take on new meaning. I wish kids were raised to understand that “custody of the emotions” (love that term) is a skill as important as reading and writing. Heck, I wish I’d been raised like that instead of having to learn it the hard way. Thanks for this.

  • I have never come across much of the stuff you have offered in this series and I am finding it very interesting and helpful. Thank you very much.

  • Max — Thanks once again for your wise words.
    Lately I realized I have a choice…when I’m in a difficult social situation..when I’m in a meeting that isn’t going well..when I’m going into a downward spiral of some emotion. And the choice is that I don’t have to be part of it. That I can take a step back into my own goodness and let that all just happen around me.
    It sounds so simple and obvious, doesn’t it? But for me — not so much.

  • This sounds great! I happened on this sort of thing in Paul Burns’ When Panic Attacks (not just for panic but any strong emotion or obsessive thought). So glad there are lots of different on-ramps to this sort of therapy. 🙂